Borderline orgasm denial, or tease and denial, is one of the most difficult aspects of male chastity.
I admit it, I love it’s.
I love being able to decide when my husband, John, orgasms…or even Yes reach orgasm at all.
I love the thrill of not knowing if tonight it will be the night; I also love the thrill when he knows he has a long time to wait (we recently completed a full year of strict orgasm denial for him, with a lot of teasing and edging).
Even so, they can be very difficult to practice provocation and denial.
If you haven’t heard of provocation and denial, it’s easy to explain.
Your partner brings you to the brink of cumming and then tells you to stop.
That is all.
You can’t cum, just to get excited.
There are also many creative ways to do this.
She can make you masturbate while she watches; you might be asked to make love to a pocket pussy (my favorite with John); she might even pleasure you orally until you’re on edge and then she’ll stop suddenly, denying you orgasm.
So now you can see why it can be so hard game to play
In fact, in the past we’ve lost the plot at some point and he ended up cumming for me anyway.
Not that he wants to (well, of course he does, but you know what I mean: he wants cum but he yearns denial).
And we both enjoy enjoy the game.
The emotion is intense and mind-blowing.
You can practice teasing and denial with your loved one at any time, though I recommend starting slowly.
Provoking and denying is not easy for the beginner. In fact, it is not easy for none men.
I also don’t recommend doing this every night, unless you’re really serious about it and your man is really in the game.
There is no danger involved, but you can have a serious case of blue balls with provocation and denial.
In fact, your whole body becomes sensitive to touch, your nipples are especially sensitive and you just want to cum.
That said, I once treated John to 31 straight nights of tease and denial, just as a dare. THAT was fun (but very hard on him).
On the plus side, it makes it very, very nice. Giving you pleasure is the only thing on her mind when you practice male chastity, but it intensifies when you play games of tease and denial.
Imagine what it’s like for him to be so close to cumming and yet not (and maybe never) is allowed.
Your wife or lover holds the key to your release, but she is denying you because you have not yet met her needs. It really makes you want to satisfy their needs.
This is what constantly stirs in the mind of a man in chastity.
Make sure you and your sweetheart talk about the tease and denial game before you try it.
Although it’s not about his dominant female sadistic pleasure, it is about her controlling your orgasm, and some women need time to get used to the idea.
Also, decide how many times you want to try to tease and deny each week.
You may decide you’re fine with this every night, or you may decide you only want to try it once every few days. It is a personal choice between you and your partner.
Feel free to add any technique that drives you crazy, that makes it even better.
Most importantly, make sure he works hard not to cum…but also remember, everyone makes a mistake from time to time and you and your lover can laugh about it after a night of lovemaking.
Ultimately, it’s about having fun and getting the facts.
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