After you’ve had another date with someone new, you’re finally home. What a bad afternoon. Once again you find yourself wondering about your breakup and if it is feasible to recover your relationship.
After a difficult breakup, it’s completely normal to want to find someone new. But no matter how many new dates you go on, you still find yourself thinking about the things you should have done to avoid breaking up with your ex in the first place.
Instead of just regretting your breakup, here are five sensible things you can do to try and get your relationship back on track.
For starters, you need to stop dating other people. Dating a wide range of people is not productive if you want your ex back. When dating, your mind will be conflicted and you won’t be able to focus all your mental energy on rebuilding your relationship. Put another way, if you’re in the dating scene, you won’t be able to focus all your efforts on getting your relationship back on track. Hooking up with others will positively ruin your chances of getting your ex back.
Second, keep your pride. You can maintain your dignity and pride by not chasing your ex around. Do not attack your ex with digital media by sending numerous text messages or flooding social accounts like Twitter or Facebook. It is very important that you do not chase your ex by following her, especially to bars and clubs.
Keep your respect for yourself. You should not tolerate being bullied by your ex. In order for your ex to treat you with courtesy, you must constantly maintain your maturity and confidence. If you make it look like your world has come crashing down without your ex, then you will be perceived as weak and insecure.
Third, remember all the good things about your ex and try to avoid repeating the bad things. Identifying all the bad qualities of an ex is a natural reaction to a difficult breakup. Seeing the best in an ex helps you work through some of the more negative feelings that you need to work through as you rebuild your relationship.
Fourth, once you get back together with your ex, don’t go back to the same places you used to hang out. If you want to start fresh and give your relationship a great chance, then go and see new things and find new social contacts. A change of scenery and activities will help both of you move forward with a positive outlook. By simply going back to the same old way of doing things, you will fall back into your old relationship patterns and perhaps relive the same old problems.
Lastly, set an unequivocal set of expectations about where you both want your relationship to go. By setting goals for your relationship, you can both agree on where you would like the relationship to go. Remember that one of the main reasons relationships fail in the first place is due to unrealistic expectations held by one or both partners.
So if you want your relationship back, transform some of your old patterns and you’ll be well on your way to a successful revival of your love for each other.