If someone were told that the way they experience life is largely the result of what they believe in, they might completely agree with this. This could be something that, to one degree or another, you have been aware of for quite some time.
On the other hand, they might end up dismissing what has been said and questioning how their life has anything to do with what they believe. As far as they are concerned, what is happening “out there” and what they experience may have very little to do with them.
A passive observer
Then one will simply be observing what is going on around him and what is going on in his life will be mostly out of his control. If asked to explain why they experience things, they might say that it is usually the result of “good luck” and “bad luck”, or “good karma” or “bad karma.”
Therefore, someone or something ‘out there’ is going to play an important role in what happens to them or not. Also, unconsciously, if not consciously, they may believe that if they behave in a certain way, “good” things will happen to them.
In the random world
If they work for someone who mistreats them, then they are unlucky, but if they win money in the lottery, they will be lucky. Or, if they are not very successful, they will be unlucky, but if they have good friends, they will be lucky.
In each of these examples, as well as others, one will not have much of an effect on what is happening. At the same time, there could be certain areas of your life that you believe are under your control, or at least, over which you have the most control.
A natural result
So if one doesn’t experience a lot of good luck, it won’t come as a surprise if they have what is often described as a ‘victim mentality’. But if bad things happen to them and there is nothing they can do, how else would they be?
To expect something different would be to hope that the night does not follow the day; it would be totally irrational. To make matters worse, both the people in your life and the society in which they live could also validate their view of themselves as victims.
To pay
Not having the ability to change their life directly, they will need to rely on an indirect way to change their life. By being a victim, you can allow them to experience control.
Other people, feeling sorry for them, may end up giving them things and doing things for them that they cannot do themselves. Being powerless, frustrating as it may be, will give you a sense of control.
Going deeper, much deeper
Now while one generally sees oneself as nothing more than a passive observer of what is happening “out there”, what if this is nothing more than an illusion? What if this is the result that you are too attached to your ego-mind and are caught up in what your eyes are telling you?
What if your beliefs define what you experience and what you don’t experience? This would mean that one is not simply a passive observer of his reality; you are both the co-creator and the observer of your life.
Analogy
One way to look at it would be to imagine that they made the decision to visit a disorderly, hostile, and even dangerous city. However, even though they made this decision, they forget about this decision once they were there.
Consequently, although they chose to live this experience, it was as if what was happening had nothing to do with them and they were punished for no reason. Naturally, during their time there, they would feel angry, frustrated, and powerless.
It seems so real
The problem is that while what they see comes from them, or from their own consciousness to be more specific, their ego-mind and their eyes will make it extremely difficult for them to achieve this. According to these parts of them, what they see will be separate from them and therefore will have nothing to do with them.
What will further strengthen this vision will be the thoughts and feelings you experience. These two elements will be what will bring your experiences to life and what will make them “real”.
Stepping back, back right
However, if one were to step back from what is happening “out there” and delve into themselves, they would likely soon discover that their external reality reflects what they believe. So while it may have seemed like things just happen to you, your mind, through the law of resonance, is actually drawing you to situations and circumstances that reflect what you believe.
Along with this, it will also make them interpret situations and circumstances in a way that will be aligned with what they believe. What this means is that even if something doesn’t really reflect what they believe, they will still see it in a way that it does.
For example
So one can have a ‘negative’ experience and this experience can result in experiencing ‘negative’ feelings. At this point, they may feel angry and helpless and / or feel like a victim.
In reality, this experience will have been a manifestation of what they believe. Your mind would have co-created this experience and this would have allowed you to experience feelings that you already had within.
Two levels
Consciously, you could say that this is not true, and on a conscious level, they could spend a good amount of time focusing on good things. However, on a deeper level, your unconscious mind will search for what it believes to be true.
That is why it will be normal for one to believe that what happens has nothing to do with them. However, by removing the curtain, so to speak, and connecting with your other mind, you will be able to understand why you experience the same things over and over again.
Shining the light
When it comes to what one believes, it can relate to what they have learned from society, their time in school, what their parents passed on to them, and the meaning they gave to what happened during their early years. What can fuel many of your beliefs is unprocessed emotional pain.
Ergo, once you have started to process the emotional pain that you have within your body, you may find that many of your beliefs begin to fade. Furthermore, simply bringing a belief into the light of consciousness can cause it to be seen for what it is: a belief and not the truth.
Conscience
If you can relate to this and are ready to change your life, you may need to seek outside support. This is something that can be provided with the help of a therapist or healer.