A wise woman once told me “don’t believe what is said just believe what you see”.
I have seen so many articles about divorce and have heard all the opinions about Mr. Divorce Monster. Listening and reading is nothing compared to real life knowledge. From my experience as a divorced woman, I can say that most of what you read and hear is not true. I think the reported consequences of divorce are greatly exaggerated, so let me tell you what I have experienced myself.
Let’s go over everything they told me and then I’ll tell you the reality of each and every claim mentioned. I want to clarify that I will only review the negative aspects that people were so sure about, I mean, like 100% sure that I will face after the divorce.
1- The husband thief
Let me start with the funniest thing I’ve ever heard: “All your married friends are going to break up with you, they’re all going to think you’re going to steal from their husbands!”
No, this didn’t happen at all, my friends are still my friends and none of them ever thought like that. I go to my friends’ houses while their husbands are present and we even travel all together. Everything about our friendship didn’t change after I got my new title. Finally, if any divorced women experienced this, let me tell you clearly that it is your friends problem, not yours. If a friend decided to break up with you because you’re now single and she’s terribly scared that her husband might think about you, then she probably isn’t sure and it’s her fault, not yours.
2- My options are only limited to losers
They’ll say “sure you’ll marry someone who’s terrible, who would marry you except a loser, now you’re divorced, you’re less than any other woman, deserted.”
No no! I am not less than anyone, maybe I am better than many. What did I do to attract losers and terrible men? that has changed in me Nothing at all, I’m still the same lady I was before I got married, maybe the divorce made me wise and I can say no to losers.
3- Everyone will use you
They said, “All the men you’ll be dating aren’t planning anything serious, they’re just going to take advantage of you, either financially or sexually.”
Let me stop here and tell you that single women are like divorcees, they both face the same problem. What can prevent men from benefiting from you is not that they don’t touch you, but that you say no and set your limits.
4- You can not get divorced again
My mother once told me: “If you got married again and it didn’t go well, you can never get divorced again, you will be doomed to this unhappy marriage forever, you can’t handle being divorced twice.” “.
Excuse me, why don’t I go do this again? Why would I stay in another unhappy marriage? Now I know how to end it and when to end it if necessary. I handled the title of divorced woman and I can handle twice as much trouble.
5- You cannot raise your children alone
“Your children will be negatively affected, children cannot be raised properly without their biological father.”
No, your children will not be affected if they are loved and understood. She can easily raise them by herself and I think most of the married women nowadays are only looking after their children. If you married a caring person, it can be a great substitute for your biological. Just make sure you pick the right guy this time.
summarizing
To conclude, if you are so sure of your decision and believe that divorce is the only solution you have, rest assured that there are negative aspects, but life is not so bad after divorce.
Most of the claims you will hear are not true. It may be that they were legitimate in the past; I mean 20 years ago, but surly they are not valid today.
People now know very well that divorced women are not less than other women. What happened to her is her destiny and no lady wanted her marriage to end in divorce.
You can very well control what others think of you with your personality and attitude. Also, don’t worry about your kids, they’ll be fine, just love them and they’ll be great.
Finally, as we all know, the divorce rate reached 60.7 in the cities according to the CAPMUS 2017 report, which means that each family has a divorce case, each group of friends has 2 or 3 divorced friends. People come into contact with a divorced woman every day and know that she could be her daughter, sister, mother, relative or best friend.