Breaking up is hard. But sometimes it is necessary.
When you are in a relationship where your needs are not being met. Where your happiness is not considered. Where you feel that you are not important to your partner. These are signs that your relationship has changed course and it may be time to go. But don’t try to be a miracle worker. Some things cannot be fixed. Learn about some of the signs of a broken relationship. Acknowledge them when they appear. And learn when to let go and move on.
Here are 10 signs that it may be time to leave your boyfriend:
1. Is insensitive and ignores your feelings.
Does he ignore you or avoid you when you have an emotional breakdown and you know that you are not a drama queen? When you try to talk to him about problems you may have, does he turn you off, turn on the television, or go to another room? Do you need to turn to others for comfort when you are sad or depressed?
If he lacks empathy for you and doesn’t care about your emotional and mental well-being, chances are he just doesn’t care about you. Now I know that some men try to comfort you in their own way, which is generally not very helpful, but at least they are trying. If you don’t even try, why stick with it? Find someone to be your shoulder to cry on or your cheer squad when you need it.
2. It is beginning to disappear.
Where had he gone? You talk to him on the phone and it seems like he has time for his family, friends, hobbies and everything under the sun, but not for you. An important part of developing a healthy relationship is spending time together.
If you live close to each other and he can’t take the time to see you, you are not a priority. If he knows that spending time with you is important to you and he still doesn’t realize it, why are you still waiting for him? He’s obviously enjoying his life, it’s time for you to start enjoying yours.
3. He’s on a mission … a secret mission.
Are you being cunning? Have you started blocking your cell phone and computer? Has he started to send calls to voicemail when you are around or has he gone to another room to send text messages? Has he stopped telling you about the things he’s been doing? Something is happening. He’s up to no good.
Don’t wait for the drama to unfold. If you get warning signs, don’t ignore them. The foundation of a good relationship is trust and if you can’t trust him, why stay with him?
4. Suddenly celibate.
For most couples, sex diminishes as their relationship matures. But it doesn’t stop suddenly. If there is a reason for your sexual dysfunction, that is fine. If you didn’t have much of a sex life to begin with, then this is not a problem. But if you were a happy and horny couple and now you may be in separate beds, then there is a problem.
If he has no desire to have sex with you, it is a definite sign that your relationship is in trouble.
5. You want to be in control.
Who is in charge of your life? Do you need to know where you are, who you are with and what you are doing? Do you check your phone, your email, your Facebook account? Are you trying to control other aspects of your life? What do you do? What you eat? What you wear
If he doesn’t let you be who you want to be, then he doesn’t love you for who you are. If he needs to see how you are, then he doesn’t trust you. You must get away from him before you lose all sense of self-worth. The only person who should be in control of your life is you. Leave this control freak out and find someone who trusts you and respects your right to be yourself.
6. He’s pissing you off … on purpose.
Most men do things that their girlfriends find irritating. But most of these things are habits and we all know how difficult it is to break habits. But your boyfriend shouldn’t go out of his way to piss you off. Does he seem to want to drive you crazy, provoke an argument?
Do your fights usually end when he leaves or threatens to break up with you? Does he seem more interested in your reaction than the actual conflict? Do you really want to get involved with a self-absorbed drama queen? Drop it and find a man who wants to show you love, not drama.
7. You can’t bear it.
Sometimes you just stop feeling the spark. You will know when it happens. When you stop wanting to see it. I don’t want to spend time with him. You fear having to hear your voice on the phone. When there is no chemistry, the time you spend with your boyfriend will depress you.
Ending this relationship is difficult, especially if you are a good guy. But you must do your best. It’s better for you because you’ll end the relationship before things get really bad. It is also better for him because it allows him to find someone with whom he has chemistry. So don’t force yourself to feel something that is not there. You’re wasting your time and his.
8. You are unhappy.
A relationship isn’t just about rainbows, sunshine, and lollipops, but it shouldn’t be torture either. Your relationship should not be a source of sadness. You should not feel trapped. You shouldn’t feel empty. If you experience joy in other aspects of your life, but your relationship brings you down, it’s time to move on.
You need to be strong. Get support. Find someone you can talk to, a friend, a family member, a counselor. Find someone who can help you figure out what you want and what you need. Remember that you are the only person who controls your happiness.
9. He will not commit to you.
Yes, there are men who fear commitment. For many, they will arrive in time for the right woman. But if the guy you love seems more committed to exploring his options, then he’s not serious with you. Do you want an open relationship? Do you think you need to keep seeing other women?
Look for something better. You are temporary. Someone to hang out with until he finds his Mrs. Right. If you agree with that, that’s fine. But don’t try to tie it up. He doesn’t want to settle down with you. Find someone to do it and let it go.
10. He’s a loser.
Expect you to pay the dates? Does he come to watch your television and eat your food? Does it seem like you always need to borrow something: food, money, your car? It’s a mooch. Get rid of this cheap dirty loser. He is using you for what you have.
He doesn’t care about you, only your things and what you can do for him. Cut him off, then get him out of your life. Losing him will not only improve your life by giving you access to better men, but it will also lower your grocery bills.
Not all relationships work. When a relationship ends, it can feel like the death of a close friend. You will feel the loss. But the pain of the breakup is nothing compared to the pain you will experience if you stay in a bad relationship. Don’t just hope that it will get better. Don’t think you can change it. If I wanted to change, I would. If you don’t, there is nothing you can do about it. If he doesn’t like you or if he doesn’t want to be with you, there is nothing you can do about it. You cannot change another person. So stop trying.
No one should feel miserable, just to be with someone. No matter who you are, there is someone who is perfect for you. There is someone who will love you as you are and for who you are. And as long as you stay in this relationship, you will never find it. So when these signs are constantly thrown in your face. Recognize them for what they are. Signs that you need to make a change, keep going. Leave Mr. Wrong and find your Mr. Right.