Teasing and denying, or “tempering,” as it is sometimes called, is a pillar of male chastity.
In short, it means that a man hands over control of his orgasms to his wife or girlfriend, that is, the decision about when, how, where and even yew he comes to orgasm is completely up to her (and we’ll get back to “yes” in a moment).
What it does not mean, however, is that the man is deprived of any sexual pleasure except the indirect pleasure of pleasing his beloved. In some relationships, the man remains completely celibate and expresses his sexuality only through his partner’s orgasms, but that is something different from what I am talking about.
Because with male chastity, the man definitely remains celibate. In contrast, couples who practice male chastity tend to have more sexual contact than less.
No, what it means is that the man is brought directly to the point of orgasm, but he is not allowed to go all the way; That is why it is called “edge”, because it takes him away and keeps him on the verge of orgasm.
Now for most women this would be incomprehensible, especially if they have ever experienced the frustration and even anger that most men exhibit when they don’t get what they want. But the truth is that many, many men yearn for this. It goes far beyond the emotional burden of having a woman in control; here we are talking about men who literally love the feeling of needing an orgasm but it is not allowed.
As my husband John describes it, “it’s like being halfway to orgasm all the time“I don’t pretend to fully understand this. As a woman, I enjoy my multiple orgasms and can’t imagine any pleasure in being delayed or denied (and it feels terribly selfish to take great pleasure in denying myself) my husband’s orgasms, knowing that he needs to cum but can’t until I allow it).
Which brings us to the inevitable question:
How long should you wait for orgasm?
Well, that depends.
It depends on what the two of you have agreed on and then what you, your partner, decide.
Some couples who practice Tease and Denial have an agreed time limit or time, and that’s okay.
But many more men give up full control, which means they are willing to take the risk that their lover will never let them come.
This sounds cruel, but trust me, it’s what many men secretly want. No, not ALL men want it, but in my experience, MOST men who admit to a desire for male chastity have permanent denial of orgasm as their ultimate fantasy.
It’s possible?
OUI well south. There is absolutely no reason that I know of to say that any man has to have an orgasm, forever. There is no compelling medical evidence to say that it is harmful, and it is not like you are enforcing it without his consent (he could cheat anytime he wanted, even if you have him locked in a chastity device and hold his key, he can cut it off if you want. There is no such thing as a 100% safe male chastity device. Anyone who says otherwise is a liar.)
And not only is it possible and as far as we know harmless, it has many benefits, in terms of greater emotional and physical intimacy, better and more frequent sex, the pleasure of hearing your man beg for the release he knows he is. Never and the satisfaction of living your life knowing that your man loves you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
My personal opinion, developed over many years of practicing male chastity and orgasm denial with John, is that the best and most pleasurable results of teasing and orgasm denial come from longer periods of denial rather than shorter periods. .
conclusion
Everyone is different and makes their own decisions, but that is said every time readers of my work ask me “How long is better between orgasms?“I encourage you to ultimately aim for permanent orgasm denial for your man, just as John and I want it now.
Bottom line: John no need to orgasm for physical or mental health and our relationship is closer and more satisfying when he doesn’t, so I don’t see any benefit in allowing it.
If that hasn’t scared you from begging your loved one for what you really want, then it’s worth finding out more about teasing and denial … but be careful what you wish for!